My son Woody turned six in November of 2011. That would have been the kindergarten year for most kids, 180 days that mark the beginning of the school career. But Woody did his learning in the big, wide, beautiful world, without school being a part of it.

I'm Teresa Honey, and I kept this blog to document this time in my son's life, to share pictures and stories with far-away friends and relatives, and to add ours to the many stories of families living rich, engaging, loving lives with learning happening all the time and in many forms, totally inseparable from every other part of being human.

Here you'll find 180 or so learning moments recorded from August, 2011 to April, 2012 in the life of a 5-turned-6-year-old radically unschooled kid.

Thursday, September 1, 2011

Day 4

We recently moved 1,000 miles from home, and though my husband Joshua and I have been talking a lot about the big changes that come with a move, so far Woody hasn't really mentioned it. But then, last night, when he and I were laying in bed, after what had been an unusually intense squabble between him and his brother, he told me some of his worries. He thought there were more and different arguments in our family than there used to be; he missed our old grocery co-op, which gave out his favorite samples; and he sometimes had bad dreams about the mountains in the region we now live.

The last two were pretty straight-forward, but the first one got me a little worried. *I* didn't think we'd been having more arguments. In fact, I thought we'd had fewer, and I had just yesterday congratulated myself for doing so well diffusing things and setting up our house to avoid the obvious conflicts. But I remembered reading in Alfie Kohn's Unconditional Parenting that it doesn't matter as much what we perceive the reality of the situation to be, it matters how are kids are perceiving it. That's what they're bringing to us--the feelings and needs associated with what they're perceiving. So, Woody and I talked about stability. I defined it for him as when enough things in your life are the way you like them to be, and you're not so worried about everything suddenly changing. He threw his hands in the air and said, "That's it! I don't have ANY of that in my life!" Then, he walked out happily to go watch the "Upside Down Show."